In that moment it seemed to me like everyone else on the planet had more money than we did and I felt dejected and frustrated. Mwaahh!
I knew that my attitude was pathetic and unhealthy and that I needed to get a grip. Thankfully I have acquired an attitude of gratitude over the course of this year, having implemented my New Year’s resolution to be more thankful for everything I have. So I redoubled my gratitude efforts and my attitude towards our home-buying has done a complete 180. I am now super grateful to be in a position where home-buying is an option and I’m seeing the beauty in homes that I hadn’t seen before.
Are you struggling with satisfaction in a part of your life or maybe in general? Are you jealous of your friend’s new car or your coworker’s recent promotion? Here is how you can use gratitude to improve your quality of life and bring you more joy.
It doesn’t really matter what you are grateful for, just as long as you get into the habit of recognizing the positive aspects of your life and doing this exercise every day. Be grateful for your hot water heater; that you didn’t get a parking ticket that morning; that the zombie apocalypse has held off for one more day! No matter how bad things may appear to be, there is always something you can be grateful for.
I do the above exercise every night and every morning. Additionally, I do an affirmation at night thanking the Universe for giving me the best day ever (even if I don’t believe it!). I also set an intention in that moment that the next day will be an amazing day filled with love and joy and that all good is going to come through me. I set that same intention the next morning and put my all into it. It gives me a surge of energy and positive anticipation for the day to come.
Bonus: write down what you are grateful for in a gratitude journal every day.
Maybe it’s your son who got dressed for school without being asked or perhaps your husband picked up the dry cleaning. A thank you goes a long way and will make both you and the person you are thanking feel good and acknowledged. It is especially important to thank those who you have a tendency to criticize. In close relationships, especially, it can become very easy to pick on each other and take each other for granted. If you bite your lip when a criticism or snarky comment is on the tip of your tongue, and instead think of something about this person to be grateful for, it will help you to make your relationship stronger. Gratitude builds us up whereas criticism tears us down.
I’ll leave you with a story I once read about two bricklayers. The first bricklayer was asked what he did for a living. He described how he was honored in his vocation to be a part of the construction of glorious cathedrals that would last hundreds of years and bring joy and inspiration to many people. The second bricklayer was asked the same question. He responded that bricklaying was backbreaking, thankless work that he had to do no matter how bad the weather and for low wages. Both of these men did the same job, but I bet you can guess which one was more joyful.
What tools do you use to keep gratitude at the forefront of your mind? Leave a comment below!